what a mom means

From the moment one hears or realizes that one is going to be a mother, wow, so many ideas go through your mind. What is his or hers name going to be? what is his or hers personality going to be like, Am I going to raise my children right. It is so hard to know how to raise a child. Then is when one starts thinking well what did my mom and dad do to teach me all the things and values I needed to learn. Now I know I am not perfect but at least I am not out there sleeping of my beautiful young days, or stealing or into drugs. When all this questions came to my mind you see or realize that the best is to turn and ask for help for the ones who know, if you thought books are the ones that know I will have to say you are wrong, there is so much information out there about what has to be done and what doesn´t that what will do is just confuse you and not help you. The best help is experience. Now where do I find experience, defently not in internet where there is soo much information that who knows its true.
Since I considere that my brothers and I are good people, well, My mom is the best choice, Mothers are always willing to give advice even when you don´t ask for it, but I think that is alot better then not getting any advice. Who will know better how to hold your baby, or how to take out the gases after the baby has eaten, or what food they should or not eat.
Sadly I don´t have the luck to have my mom here next to me, but well Fidel has the fortune to have her close, and to be able to Ask for help when he doesn´t know what to do about some issue with Amanita, or have someone where to leave her and I mean a place where you know by all ways that she is going to be taken care of and be able to share moments with her grandmother. Been a parent and been a grandparent is soo different. A parents responsability is to educate the child but a grandparents responsability is to spoile the child, the grandparent already did their job, they brought up their children, they educated them, now it is time to spoile and to just share time with no need of having rules or anything besides having a good time togheter.
The relantionship in between one and the mother in law is hard no matter what, always have to be tactful, my in laws are great always willing to help and always giving advice, I know they are going to spoile my baby very much but it is their turn to do so we will have our time for that also. NOw the advice in laws give you, well, you can always take as theya re trying ti control you or they are just wanting to help, the way you look at it depends on you. And hey, they did an excellent job growing Juan MAnuel, what should be my worry, right?? I know that leaving my baby with them is going to be safe and they are not going to leave my baby under a car or next to boiling pot. One has to think where our fears are coming from, are there real or not. Luckly I have 5 more months to thinks about where my fears are coming from and if they are real, and I have to let go to the idea of controlling everything around my baby.